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Wooowww I forgot about this soundtrack. Bye, going to listen to it forever.

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Not forever! Zach Braff will haunt your dreams.

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Hiiiii!i!i!i!i!!!!! I want to rewatch Garden State right now.

I’m really resonating with the idea of how sharing art that resonates with you helps communicate your essence or current state to someone else. That’s powerful. And I also resonate with how the world is less isolating when someone gives you a full body “yes” in understanding you, because then its a full body “yes” from you back and then two people are on the same wavelength. Also, mega powerful.

This got me thinking back to a time in high school when I felt isolated because I wasn’t understood by anyone around me. I wish I figured out sooner to reach out more, and just share the things I was interested in, be less shy, and just talk to new people. But I kinda let that feeling of “nO oNe UnDeRsTaNdSz MeEeEeEe” consume me. But in college, I started sharing what I was interested in and gravitated towards people that did the same. Now there is that shared feeling of home in people (well, I know for sure with some people definitely share that feeling, but others I hope they feel the same). And also in the act of sharing with others and finding home with others, I started to find home within myself. This took a while to discover. I think I’m discovering that right now. Even though I was late at the connection game with others and myself, I’m glad I eventually did figure it out. I hope this essay inspires others to reflect on finding home with others and themselves.

I didn’t realize daisies were so strong and persistent. What an excellent gift to give a loved one.

I will not hesitate to give into joy this year. UGH love Sunday Candy 21 - I remember reading it and actually feeling stuck and worked so hard to get unstuck and now every day, after a year of trying to start every day new, I feel like I finally became unstuck from that angst I had! Sorry for oversharing 😬 And thank you for sharing your tender candies <3 Looking forward to more this year!

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Yes, well...team “nO oNe UnDeRsTaNdSz MeEeEeEe” :D

I don't know if anyone feels understood at that age. Nobody knows themselves in high school, so I think it's hard for anyone to understand anyone. Actually, I think most people don't know themselves even at this age. I assume it's scary to acknowledge that and do something about it. It takes time.

I don't know if a person can be "late at the connection game" -- if so, then I think I was late, too. Are we all late? Does anyone know what they're doing? [I don't think so]

All flowers are strong and persistent!!! They're magic. Everyone should have daisies and all the flowers, all the time, always.

Thank you for sharing about your angst! Is it oversharing or just sharing? What's the difference?

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...beautiful as always...not sure how in all my days of watching and rewatching so many movies i have never seen Garden State...add it to the list..."you can always return home to yourself"...i'm hoping that means i can also take a vacation away from me (and/or return all these old horror VHS tapes to the rental store around the corner from my brain)...

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Do watch it and let me know how it lands for you! After you watch Crossroads, of course.

Is taking a vacation from oneself a good thing? 🤔 You must stay home forever.

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...dare i watch them back to freaking back and call it Sunday Candy fest?...reaching out to the Alamo in the Mission to see if we can get this done full screen on 35MM...

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“nature is a gentle thing, yes, but you should never overlook the way it is naturally aggressive in its commitment to its own aliveness.” Loved this, and all the stories and reflections.

I’m glad this is the last thing I’ll read this year, lots to ponder over. Will be back next year and tell you more of what it brought out. Happy and tender new year to you too!

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Whoa. And what was the FIRST thing you read this year?

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Nothing as memorable as this, I can't remember especifically! Other than the current books I'm reading

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It’s funny, how a whole article like this can be written and read by different people in different parts of the world, and the same phrases jump out in their own form of aliveness. I was going to comment on the same phrase as Oscar here. Loved this insight.

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Yessss. That's my favorite part, Rick!

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P.S. happy new year, my tender babies

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