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Oscar Obregon's avatar

Which one is positive and which one negative, between light and heavy? Ask Milan Kundera! Also, I envy your recalling skills that can so easily bring you energy and crying; powerful and useful.

There's ambition in you just sitting there.

Don't worry about making it special since it'll take away all the specialness. It's already special if you're living it.

Say more about what a relationship to love is. I think mine's pretty decent but have no clear way to know. Also, great way to explain why tenderness is important for you. I agree with all of it, especially its urgency!

And what was that happiest moment you could think of?

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Sandra Yvonne's avatar

You can borrow my brain for memory recall and storage if you want! I have remembered enough lol

What you said: “but have no clear way to know” is something I’ve been thinking a lot about. It seems the majority of people don’t actually know; generally, people/children aren’t explicitly taught what love is, how to love, etc., and I think most parents don’t even know you do have to actually explicitly teach that.

There’s a lot to be said on this topic, but a couple of thoughts: A lot of adults go through a lot of their lives thinking they know what love is, but may not really know. There isn’t much clarity on that; what is love? And what is it supposed to look like? It makes it difficult.

I also think most people don’t realize their capacity for love, how much more there is to experience within all their relationships, and within themselves. The topic is so limited to romantic dynamics, that’s so unhelpful.

Back to the tenderness; I think there’s a lot of love lacking. People who don’t know it, but have a lot of it in them to give, but also don’t and/or don’t know how. Being mindful of that is important, and I see staying tender as partially a way to cultivate love towards others, and through that, inviting others to feel and express it too. Anyway, just a couple of thoughts at the top of my head; still working it out!

The happiest moment was a really simple memory with a friend.

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Chao Lam's avatar

Love, love, love each of these short pieces but esp but the first and last! It’s literally like passing a feeling forward

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Sandra Yvonne's avatar

❤️❤️❤️

Chao you must share what feelings are being passed forward?!

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