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Maybe the kindest and grandest thing you can give yourself, sometimes, is a slice of quiet. Maybe even the tiniest sliver of stillness and silence, frosted in a golden gap of nothingness, is a gift, I think.
To be fair, this is not so easy to do, it is not nothing to steal something as sacred as time, from yourself, for yourself. It can often feel easier said than done. It is often easier said than done. And it is probably not often done.
I love quiet. And I love the idea of quiet, and still, at some point, I feel a familiar guilt when I take it for myself. Not always at first, but often, eventually.
Maybe because the intention is not about what this quiet will do for me in the long run, or rather, what it will allow me to do for you, how useful it will help me be, for me and you, it’s only about a single moment and what I could do but won’t do with it.
It’s about savoring the ephemeral, instead of succumbing to the eternal. It’s about letting my mind just be or think what it wants to think, even if it’s not “useful.” Especially if it’s not useful. It’s about pillowy daydreams and pleasure instead of productivity. And this feels bad.
We talk about doing less of this and that and thinking less about this and that, but sometimes, actually, quite often, I want to think more, just about other things, without the guilt. I want to be in emptiness and think without the pressure of a thought serving some purpose. And should every thought serve some purpose? Am I irresponsible if they don’t?
I find myself thinking, with this moment of quiet, I should be using it to think more productive things. This time should be used for more useful thoughts. Better thoughts. Aren’t there bigger things, more important things, and people, to be thinking about right now?
Yes. But also, maybe, so what?
And so, maybe a “So what?” is also the kindest and grandest thing you can give yourself, sometimes.
🎶 Playlist 🎶
I can’t bottle sunshine, but maybe my sunny afternoon can be channeled in a playlist for you.
Enjoy listening, maybe while looking up at the sky, maybe on a stroll, hopefully passing by fragrant flowers, or maybe in the car with the windows rolled down, or really, in whatever way you please.
& That’s it for Sunday Candy #32!
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Playlists are always on point, thanks for sharing!
Gahhh this was exactly what I needed to hear in absolutely the most beautiful package. I found myself taking deep breaths while reading it, reminding myself to be present and just enjoy.
“Maybe even the tiniest sliver of stillness and silence, frosted in a golden gap of nothingness, is a gift, I think.” So poetic, this sounds like the best thing in the world.