"When we revel in our uncool, we allow ourselves to be truly seen, and we become mirrors for others to see themselves too." That line will forever stay with me.
What a great testament of an essay for all of us to embrace our uncoolness and in that way build such meaningful "bridges of connection".
Beautifully written, and makes me so happy to call you my friend and have the openness to be uncool with you :)
This essay! Wow! I felt like you were speaking to teenage me. Uncool, scared, and unable to get beyond the shallow. Writing has been me leaning into my uncool, so much that 15 year old Malavika would shudder if she heard I was just slathering it on my Substack so merrily lol for others to see! Thank you for giving us this gem of an essay Sandra. And for bearing witness to your uncool so kindly that you could bear witness to mine so tenderly! 💛
"When we revel in our uncool, we allow ourselves to be truly seen, and we become mirrors for others to see themselves too."
Sometimes I worry our world is entering a friendship recession. Transactional friendships = surface level connections. One's DMs or Messages might be full, but one's heart and soul remains empty. You remind me that we can enrich each other's lives by giving our full self to others.
I love the idea of leaning into the uncool depths of our inner truths and finding a place of belonging there, as well as with others who do the same. This essay has me reflecting on all of my relationships. I gotta watch this movie!
"When we revel in our uncool, we allow ourselves to be truly seen, and we become mirrors for others to see themselves too." That line will forever stay with me.
What a great testament of an essay for all of us to embrace our uncoolness and in that way build such meaningful "bridges of connection".
Beautifully written, and makes me so happy to call you my friend and have the openness to be uncool with you :)
This essay! Wow! I felt like you were speaking to teenage me. Uncool, scared, and unable to get beyond the shallow. Writing has been me leaning into my uncool, so much that 15 year old Malavika would shudder if she heard I was just slathering it on my Substack so merrily lol for others to see! Thank you for giving us this gem of an essay Sandra. And for bearing witness to your uncool so kindly that you could bear witness to mine so tenderly! 💛
Brilliant essay, my brilliant friend 🤘🏽
"When we revel in our uncool, we allow ourselves to be truly seen, and we become mirrors for others to see themselves too."
Sometimes I worry our world is entering a friendship recession. Transactional friendships = surface level connections. One's DMs or Messages might be full, but one's heart and soul remains empty. You remind me that we can enrich each other's lives by giving our full self to others.
I love the idea of leaning into the uncool depths of our inner truths and finding a place of belonging there, as well as with others who do the same. This essay has me reflecting on all of my relationships. I gotta watch this movie!
Sandra, this is 🔥🔥
Great to see you doing some longer essays again!
Wow, I remember really loving Almost Famous but can’t recall the plot at all now - time for a rewatch! ~your uncool friend