The line "Maybe because Iām still grieving the person I could have been then" resonated with me. I still sometimes feel that way (and I am in my 50's !).
The George Bernard Shaw quote feels true to me: "Youth is wasted on the young". At least my youthful energy and beauty were wasted on my younger self, I couldn't enjoy it or use it to my advantage or pleasure.
It's not that scary. I vaguely recall mine as well (my memory sucks). I was at a low point overall so I'm sure it wasn't the best - but from that point, the trajectory of my life changed. Its pointing upwards now and that's what i always remember, not my regrets and infitnite "what ifs"
I'm 3 years over the line now lol. And i dont mind ageing - its a part of life (and frankly unavoidable, so why waste effort). So I focus on ageing gracefully now. Atleast , till the extent i can š
As someone who dreads birthdays, I hate to even entertain your question because it requires me to think about the past. But this line resonates āMaybe because Iām still grieving the person I could have been then.ā I think we all feel some of this. Some of us more than others. I feel like I left a lot on the table in my 20ās, but as Iāve gotten older Iām starting to see that who I was then, was exactly who I needed to be to get where I am now.
Donāt beat yourself up over it. And Happy Belated Birthday!!
For me, I definitely swung the pendulum of "adulting" too far when I exited my 20s. I think its important to realize that being in your 30s doesn't mean life has to suddenly take on a more serious overtone. Instead, you simply have more experiences to build upon!
I enjoyed the poetry of this piece, and the rose garden looks beautiful.
Mid-30s over here, and I think the best part of getting older is more inner peace and not requiring the social validation that often guides decision making in your 20s.
Another great newsletter! Thanks Sandra. It's almost like you say what is on my mind!
I had some birthday cake on the weekend too! Although it was not my cake I had to give an impromptu speech which I always dread. Everyone was saying do the speech, just do the speech! Whats wrong? Why are you refusing, don't you care enough to do a speech? etc.
So I asked someone I trusted to do the speech. They did a great job.
Your high school friend wrote "i'll be able to do whatever I want" and I think saying no is a part of that. As I did not want to do the speech. So for me getting older is that I am more comfortable with doing what I want. And I like that.
The line "Maybe because Iām still grieving the person I could have been then" resonated with me. I still sometimes feel that way (and I am in my 50's !).
The George Bernard Shaw quote feels true to me: "Youth is wasted on the young". At least my youthful energy and beauty were wasted on my younger self, I couldn't enjoy it or use it to my advantage or pleasure.
Welcome to the "other side" Sandra š„³
It's not that scary. I vaguely recall mine as well (my memory sucks). I was at a low point overall so I'm sure it wasn't the best - but from that point, the trajectory of my life changed. Its pointing upwards now and that's what i always remember, not my regrets and infitnite "what ifs"
I'm 3 years over the line now lol. And i dont mind ageing - its a part of life (and frankly unavoidable, so why waste effort). So I focus on ageing gracefully now. Atleast , till the extent i can š
As someone who dreads birthdays, I hate to even entertain your question because it requires me to think about the past. But this line resonates āMaybe because Iām still grieving the person I could have been then.ā I think we all feel some of this. Some of us more than others. I feel like I left a lot on the table in my 20ās, but as Iāve gotten older Iām starting to see that who I was then, was exactly who I needed to be to get where I am now.
Donāt beat yourself up over it. And Happy Belated Birthday!!
For me, I definitely swung the pendulum of "adulting" too far when I exited my 20s. I think its important to realize that being in your 30s doesn't mean life has to suddenly take on a more serious overtone. Instead, you simply have more experiences to build upon!
āIāll be able to do whatever I want."
I'm currently living this life.
Not as sexy as it seems.
I want direction.
Somebody to tell me what to do.
Freedom comes at a price š
Happy birthday Sandra!
Wishing you a nice 30th!
I enjoyed the poetry of this piece, and the rose garden looks beautiful.
Mid-30s over here, and I think the best part of getting older is more inner peace and not requiring the social validation that often guides decision making in your 20s.
Happy belated birthday!
Who is cutting onions here? š„ŗ
Thanks for sharing, Sandra. I felt all the emotions in this. Such a beautifully written piece!
Wishing you a happy belated birthday. May your 30s be all you want it to be and more. šš
Another great newsletter! Thanks Sandra. It's almost like you say what is on my mind!
I had some birthday cake on the weekend too! Although it was not my cake I had to give an impromptu speech which I always dread. Everyone was saying do the speech, just do the speech! Whats wrong? Why are you refusing, don't you care enough to do a speech? etc.
So I asked someone I trusted to do the speech. They did a great job.
Your high school friend wrote "i'll be able to do whatever I want" and I think saying no is a part of that. As I did not want to do the speech. So for me getting older is that I am more comfortable with doing what I want. And I like that.